You’re a highly sensitive person exhausted by grief in a world that doesn’t understand either.

The dark emptiness inside is all consuming, the world feels dull. Like the dark clouds have covered a stunning warm summers day and plunged it into the depths of winter. Will summer ever return? I know it might not feel like it right now, no signs of life, cold and lonely. It’s difficult to find the motivation to do much of anything, the evenings have gotten longer with the mornings shorter. Late nights spent distracting yourself online only to wake up at 11am and ask yourself ‘what’s the point?’.

You make no time to plan meals anymore, resorting to the comfort of the food you have in the freezer that can be chucked in the air frier. You don’t feel great even after eating but at least you’re not hungry anymore. It’s okay the headache will subside in a few hours because you’ve finally taken in a pint of water and some food.

The thought of going into work brings with it an anxious feeling in your stomach like you’re going to be sick. If that isn’t enough to stop you going in by calling in sick, the tightness in your chest makes you very aware of the stress you are feeling right now. The thoughts of all you have to do whilst at work, the conversations you will have and how drained you will feel when you finally get home after it all. You don’t want to let anyone see how sad you are really feeling inside but it’s exhausting pretending you’re okay. You don’t want to be doing this anymore but you’re too afraid of going ahead with your plan to end it all. Who would look after Lupin when you’re gone?

At least today has been better, it wasn’t so long ago that you’d been having to crawl to the toilet to throw up experiencing the worst migraine over three days of room spinning hell. It doesn’t help the feeling of dread thinking about when a migraine might hit again. You wish someone could bring comfort to you right now, to let you know that it will be okay. That there’s nothing wrong or broken with you right now. If only you could see how much support there is around you if only you would reach out, but it’s clear just how much the fear of being judged as an even bigger failure for needing help keeps you stuck suffering alone. The divorce was like the world got pulled out from beneath you, all the plans you had for your future life, the family, the career, the beautiful home and land to retire to. None of that feels possible now, it’s no wonder you feel like a failure.

If only you could have noticed the signs sooner. The truth is though, you didn’t know until it was too late. You tried your best the whole time and now the pain you feel is caused by holding onto the thought that you could have done more.

What you can’t see right now is the conversation you have in your future, the reaching out for support after saying to yourself ‘enough is enough’. How in that conversation you experience an opening of the clouds and a warmth of sunlight, a lightness as you release all that has been so heavy for so long. For just a moment summer has returned. You go on to experience the opening of the clouds more and more often before one day waking up to spring. In spring you see for the first time just how your own sensitivity kept winter there for so long even whilst others were living in summer.

No longer do you feel that you are too much for others, nor will you insist on holding onto the thought that you should be stronger than this by now. In this moment you see life return in its vibrant colours and summer is certain to be just around the corner.

I know all too well how this feels because this has been but a glimpse into my own past experience. An experience that covered just some of the difficult days, one that will not be found in a textbook. One that has been lived. The divorce, the migraines, the freezer food, the not wanting to be here. I know what the other side of it looks like because I had to find my way there and I was prepared to crawl if I had to.

In the depths of winter you see no point, no reason to get out of bed, to go to the gym, to eat healthily. With springs arrival there begins to be a purpose once more, the peaceful walks in nature with Lupin become vibrant. Your walks shift from a reluctant chore to play, chasing after each other in the park. Food begins to taste less bland and eating whole foods feels energising for you, new meals get planned and prepared from scratch. Spring brings the unexpected, like a bulb hidden beneath the ground shooting up a stalk and flower, suddenly you see a point to it all. A beauty in being witness to all the sights, the smells and the sounds. You desire to travel and see the world. To experience life in ways you’d never considered before.

Quickly the world becomes comforting to you again, and the loneliness that kept you isolated melts away like the snow under the suns encouraging warmth. Your ideas for new hobbies spring up like bluebells, the overwhelm shifts from a place of emotional shutdown to feeling excited to try new ideas. The days don’t feel long enough, a surprising thought not possible to imagine before now.

The shift from winter to spring looks like a series of conversations. After the first two you will finally feel heard and seen. All the parts hidden because of the shame, and the thoughts that kept them there will be brought up without judgement. You will clearly see that which you’ve been told you should be over by now. We create the space for it all without any rush.

After the second two you will experience an understanding. You will see just how it came to be this intense and how that isn’t a flaw in you. By now the source of self doubt becomes clear.

In the final two sessions there will be a felt shift, you on the other side of this has been seen. This genuine felt sense will be accompanied with the momentum of the past sessions. There will be a compassion for yourself that wasn’t there in the beginning, a peaceful acceptance of what you have come to learn about yourself and the experience you have been through.

The six conversations represent an investment of £1200, for the right person the return on this investment is measured not financially but in years.

Building back up from scratch whilst exhausted and alone can take years but with support you can save years. Let’s begin by getting you back on solid ground and building a secure foundation.

For the first time in a long time you’ll mean it when you say you’re okay.

The first conversation is where the clouds begin to part.

Book a free 30 minute conversation with me and let’s talk about where you are right now.

There’s no commitment, pressure or performance required. Just an honest conversation between two people who understand what it is like to feel things deeply.

The version of you reading this right now didn’t give up, you read every word. That matters more than you know, summer is closer than it feels.

Having had several sessions now with Tom, I find myself in a completely different place, emotionally and psychologically ..I love the way he can pick up on things/words that to you are quite insignificant or meaningless but come to be rather important. Tom has a style of questioning that automatically puts you at ease and makes you feel comfortable. I am moving forward with a happy heart and a belief that I am stronger than I thought and yes I can do it! - Dawn

Through talking with Tom I accessed thoughts and memories that I didn't realise were there. He helped me see what my true potential is and helped me to believe that I could reach it! I was comfortable being emotional at times (I didn't expect to be!) and felt held in the space. - Melanie